Thursday, 6 January 2011

Badgering the Child-Free Video

Being child-free by choice, I have got used to justifying myself to others over the years. I don't mind people who are just making polite conversation when asking if I have or want children, but the look on people's faces when I say, "No" often says a great deal about what they think of me or what they are going to say next. And it's often negative or patronising.
Of course, not everyone automatically has an (often unintentional) questioning, condescending, sometimes offensive attitude.
But only the other day I got, "Don't ALL women want children?" as if I am some kind of freak.

But as I have talked about this extensively on my other pages, and listed the reasons why I don't want children, I'll just leave it at that, and let you watch this cartoon video I have made. It's based on truth as I have had all of these questions and statements in the past year at some point. Enjoy!


  1. Awesome vid!

    I hear ya totally re this. I am 37, I don't have kids and have never wanted them and this normally always elicits remarks such as above but the overriding sentiment is that I am a selfish person who wants to do what I want all the time and that kids would somehow threaten the selfishness I've got going on.

    I used to wonder why people failed to really listen to the way I worded my response and felt the need continually to tell me what they thought I was saying. Annoying! I used to sit and wonder why others are like this, is it because we are going against the 'norm' in some ways? Maybe.

    What I think a lot of it boils down to is 'misery needing company.' They have a certain type of life and when they see others living their own lives and being happy and perhaps not being 'tied down' they instinctively get on the offensive and start with the personal attacks and slights because I would argue that those who are comfortable within their own lives don't need to do that.

  2. People often just don't believe me, no matter how many times I say it.
    Thanks for the comments x